Your Best Is Not …
Have you ever been in a situation involving another person where you thought to yourself …
“You know, if they just worked harder they would be so much better off”
Maybe you exited from the highway and at the end of the ramp was a homeless person with a sign and you thought …
“If you would stop begging and go look for a job, you wouldn’t be in this situation.”
In situations that involve others we need to remember that we don’t know the whole story.
We don’t know: what they’ve experienced in their past, what they’re experiencing now, their mental capacity, how they think, what they think, or their background … were they abused, a veteran, or are they developmentally challenged, etc.
We really don’t know anything about them and yet we judge them for not doing their best because it’s not our best.
In times like this, I find myself needing to regroup, step back, and say: “At this exact moment in time they are doing the best they can with what they have.”
Some may disagree … and for those of you who do, please know that you will never fully know what is going on inside the mind of anyone else. You can only project your own inner thoughts and beliefs onto them.
Here’s what I know … someday (hopefully) you are going to be much older than you are today.
At that point in your life you will not hear as well, you will move slower, think slower, and forget things. You will repeat stories over and over and you will need help to do the things that you used to do by yourself from the time you were 3 years old.
You will have good days and you will have days when you feel like you can’t do anything right!
And on those not so good days you will be praying that the people around you see someone who in that exact moment in time is doing their best.
2 final thoughts:
What you put out there is what you get back … eventually
AND your best is not the same as everyone else’s.