Recently I was working with a group of leaders from a gold mining company to help them strengthen their Coaching Skills. Towards the end of the week I had an opportunity to tour the mine. My guide Jesse was navigating though the various tunnels when all of a sudden he stopped the vehicle, killed the lights, and shut-off the engine. While we sat there 2500 feet underground in complete and utter darkness … it hit me … LIKE A TON OF BRICKS!
Being a leader means that your people take their cues from you. The behaviors you exhibit are the behaviors that slowly get woven into the culture of your team. And while the saying “Do as I say … not as I do” may work with a 2 year old, it will drive your ability to lead right into the toilet. So the question becomes … what beliefs and behaviors are forming your team culture?
Got Problems? Have you ever wondered if you might causing some of the problems you’re experiencing in your life? Recently after numerous calls from a phone number that would not take return phone calls, I attempted to block the number. I went online and followed the instructions on the website to block that specific number.
In life there are things we need to let go of … and things we need to hold onto. The key to a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life is knowing the difference and which one to do and when … hold or let go. Below is a short list of things that need to hold onto. Why? Because when you lose these 10 things … life can be pretty empty.
We all end up holding onto things that we need to let go of for various reasons. Maybe we need to let go of an old belief that does not give us the results we want or no longer serves us. Maybe we need to let go of a job that holds us back from bringing our optimal value to the workplace. What ever it may be … we probably all could stand to let go of something in our lives.
A wise mentor of mine, Dr Nido Qubein of High Point University, once told me, “Joe if you don’t have a why … the how and the what don’t matter!” As I reflect back on the times in my life when I was driven towards a particular goal … be it writing my first book or starting my business, I was always crystal clear about the why behind my actions. I had a clear understanding of my purpose for that particular goal and was driven to achieve it.
You’ve heard the saying, “garbage in … garbage out.” When it comes to your thoughts and your words, the same principle applies … what you think will determine what you do AND what you say. Most people have heard these statements before … what you sow is what you reap, be careful who you hang out with it is who you will become, thoughts become things, etc.
A group of friends and I were having a discussion about happiness. Various people took turns chiming in on the topic. The conversation included a number of different comments. One person shared that they were rediscovering what made them happy, another about the fact that they seemed to focus more on what made them unhappy, and yet another listed specific things that made them happy.
The movie: True Grit (the original starring John Wayne). The scene: John Wayne, on his horse in a meadow, 50 yards across from Lucky Ned Pepper and his gang. It’s the climactic scene that the entire movie is built on … The epitome of true grit. The lines: John Wayne: (paraphrased) “Ned, I’m gonna kill you or see you hanged”
So what’s all this talk I hear about Emotional Intelligence? Emotional Intelligence can be defined as a person’s ability to effectively negotiate social relationships and environments. Emotional Intelligence is a relatively new science and is becoming an important factor in determining a persons success in business and in life.