“But I think it’s about Forgiveness.” Don Henley. Forgive and Forget? While that sounds simple it isn’t always easy! Sometimes atrocities happen in life caused by the actions of another person. Those are extremely difficult situations to forgive … and yet it has been proven that forgiveness in those horrendous situations actually sets the victim free, not the offender.
This is a story about a book, a book about what happens when authenticity and risk collide. I started writing my soon to be released book, I Could Love No One Until I Loved Me in early 2009. At the time, I was going through a pretty traumatic time in my life. It was the onset of what some called the ‘second depression’ and my business had been significantly impacted. In what felt like a matter of days, we went from having our best year ever to having one of our worst … overnight.
The power of words can have an unforeseen negative or positive impact on your life. At some point someone has directed one or more of these words towards us … dumb, stupid, idiot, ignorant, asinine, inane, despicable, egregious, ugly, fat, failure, repulsive, substandard, jackass, moron, reject, etc!
If you want to change your life now … start by changing your brain. A recent article by Emotional Intelligence guru Daniel Goleman states that research in the field of Neurogenesis has discovered that your brain generates 10,000 new stem cells everyday! So much for killing brain cells eh?
Sometimes it takes losing something or someone to help us gain clarity on what we value in life. One way to prevent this from happening is making sure our values are in alignment with our actions, in other words … internal and external integrity. If I asked you to make a list of the 5 things you value most in life … what would be on your list? If I asked you how much time and attention you devote to those things or people on your list … what would you say?
Recently, a friend of mind and I were discussing the topic of commitment. I was sharing a situation where I felt that I needed to be ‘all in’ or not. Fence-sitting for too long can be uncomfortable. Let me add here, that at times, I have been known to analyze, scrutinize, and over-think, a situation to death … and this was one of those times!
The other day I was conversing with a colleague and fellow coach by the name of Barry Zweibel. We’ve been friends and have had a Mastermind of sorts since the day we met about 12 years ago. We were talking about life in general when Barry, as only Barry can do, pulled out a 2 x 4 and walloped me upside the head with a question that challenged what I believed about my purpose in life. He was challenging me to embrace my purpose at a much higher level.
Every since the beginning of time humans have searched to find their purpose in life. Thousands of books have been written and hundreds of thousand of speeches, lectures, and discussions have been given on the topic of purpose. And yet, how many people do you know, if asked, could succinctly complete the following sentence, “My purpose in life is to …”
At any given time in life we are all faced with problems and challenges. It’s a fact … you can’t navigate through life and avoid having problems. Problems will come no matter how hard you wish them away. What you believe about problems and the actions you take as a result of your beliefs will determine your level of happiness as well as your ability to work through them towards a solution.
I was raised to “respect my elders.” I was taught that “children should be seen and not heard.” And if I did those things I would be a well-mannered, well-behaved child. Not saying it was perfect or right … just saying it is what I was taught.