A wise mentor of mine, Dr Nido Qubein of High Point University, once told me, “Joe if you don’t have a why … the how and the what don’t matter!” As I reflect back on the times in my life when I was driven towards a particular goal … be it writing my first book or starting my business, I was always crystal clear about the why behind my actions. I had a clear understanding of my purpose for that particular goal and was driven to achieve it.
You’ve heard the saying, “garbage in … garbage out.” When it comes to your thoughts and your words, the same principle applies … what you think will determine what you do AND what you say. Most people have heard these statements before … what you sow is what you reap, be careful who you hang out with it is who you will become, thoughts become things, etc.
Growth … spiritual growth, personal growth, professional growth, relational growth, emotional growth, and on and on it goes! For those folks who focus on continuous growth and development … I have a question for you. Are you happy? Are you content with where you are at this exact moment in time? Or …
I always believed that growth as a person, a leader, or a professional, meant that I needed to be learning something new. It meant that I was pushing, stretching or moving out of my comfort zone in order to expand my knowledge, my thoughts, or my skills so that I could be better. But growth is not always about pushing or pulling at all.
Having a purpose bigger than you is where it all begins … In business I believe that the key to motivating employee’s requires two things: Help them identify their unique contribution to the organization and consistently recognize them for it. Show them how they are a part of something bigger than themselves.
“But I think it’s about Forgiveness.” Don Henley. Forgive and Forget? While that sounds simple it isn’t always easy! Sometimes atrocities happen in life caused by the actions of another person. Those are extremely difficult situations to forgive … and yet it has been proven that forgiveness in those horrendous situations actually sets the victim free, not the offender.
This is a story about a book, a book about what happens when authenticity and risk collide. I started writing my soon to be released book, I Could Love No One Until I Loved Me in early 2009. At the time, I was going through a pretty traumatic time in my life. It was the onset of what some called the ‘second depression’ and my business had been significantly impacted. In what felt like a matter of days, we went from having our best year ever to having one of our worst … overnight.
The power of words can have an unforeseen negative or positive impact on your life. At some point someone has directed one or more of these words towards us … dumb, stupid, idiot, ignorant, asinine, inane, despicable, egregious, ugly, fat, failure, repulsive, substandard, jackass, moron, reject, etc!
If you want to change your life now … start by changing your brain. A recent article by Emotional Intelligence guru Daniel Goleman states that research in the field of Neurogenesis has discovered that your brain generates 10,000 new stem cells everyday! So much for killing brain cells eh?
Sometimes it takes losing something or someone to help us gain clarity on what we value in life. One way to prevent this from happening is making sure our values are in alignment with our actions, in other words … internal and external integrity. If I asked you to make a list of the 5 things you value most in life … what would be on your list? If I asked you how much time and attention you devote to those things or people on your list … what would you say?