Sometimes we find ourselves in a situation that seems so overwhelming that we lose our way and end up drowning in a sea of fear, doubt, and confusion. In times like these … it might be helpful to simplify your thought process and boil it all down to one simple and easy question … am I happy? Answering this question should be relatively simple and it is … until we start to over-think, over-analyze, and over-complicate what should be a very simple answer … Yes I am or No I am not!
In life there are things we need to let go of … and things we need to hold onto. The key to a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life is knowing the difference and which one to do and when … hold or let go. Below is a short list of things that need to hold onto. Why? Because when you lose these 10 things … life can be pretty empty.
A wise mentor of mine, Dr Nido Qubein of High Point University, once told me, “Joe if you don’t have a why … the how and the what don’t matter!” As I reflect back on the times in my life when I was driven towards a particular goal … be it writing my first book or starting my business, I was always crystal clear about the why behind my actions. I had a clear understanding of my purpose for that particular goal and was driven to achieve it.
This past Fathers Day I found myself alone and in a reflective state … Translation~ I was lying on the couch with the remote in my hand navigating through 387 channels when I stumbled across Oprah’s Life Class. Her guest was T.D. Jakes, the pastor of the Potter’s House, a non-denominational, mega-church located in Dallas.
You’ve heard the saying, “garbage in … garbage out.” When it comes to your thoughts and your words, the same principle applies … what you think will determine what you do AND what you say. Most people have heard these statements before … what you sow is what you reap, be careful who you hang out with it is who you will become, thoughts become things, etc.
A group of friends and I were having a discussion about happiness. Various people took turns chiming in on the topic. The conversation included a number of different comments. One person shared that they were rediscovering what made them happy, another about the fact that they seemed to focus more on what made them unhappy, and yet another listed specific things that made them happy.
The movie: True Grit (the original starring John Wayne). The scene: John Wayne, on his horse in a meadow, 50 yards across from Lucky Ned Pepper and his gang. It’s the climactic scene that the entire movie is built on … The epitome of true grit. The lines: John Wayne: (paraphrased) “Ned, I’m gonna kill you or see you hanged”
So what’s all this talk I hear about Emotional Intelligence? Emotional Intelligence can be defined as a person’s ability to effectively negotiate social relationships and environments. Emotional Intelligence is a relatively new science and is becoming an important factor in determining a persons success in business and in life.
How many times have you said to yourself: I can’t believe this? Was it after seeing something that didn’t make sense or experiencing something that made you incredibly angry? One of the models I use with clients is Beliefs (what we think) drives Behaviors (what we do) and those actions create the Results (what we get) in our lives.
How do you celebrate your goals? It’s January and the pinnacle of the pro football season is almost upon us … the Superbowl. Folks will gather on Superbowl Sunday across the country and in various parts of the world to jump, scream, and holler, each and every time their team drives down the field and pushes the football past the goal line.