Got Problems? Have you ever wondered if you might causing some of the problems you’re experiencing in your life? Recently after numerous calls from a phone number that would not take return phone calls, I attempted to block the number. I went online and followed the instructions on the website to block that specific number.
Sometimes we find ourselves in a situation that seems so overwhelming that we lose our way and end up drowning in a sea of fear, doubt, and confusion. In times like these … it might be helpful to simplify your thought process and boil it all down to one simple and easy question … am I happy? Answering this question should be relatively simple and it is … until we start to over-think, over-analyze, and over-complicate what should be a very simple answer … Yes I am or No I am not!
In life there are things we need to let go of … and things we need to hold onto. The key to a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life is knowing the difference and which one to do and when … hold or let go. Below is a short list of things that need to hold onto. Why? Because when you lose these 10 things … life can be pretty empty.
A wise mentor of mine, Dr Nido Qubein of High Point University, once told me, “Joe if you don’t have a why … the how and the what don’t matter!” As I reflect back on the times in my life when I was driven towards a particular goal … be it writing my first book or starting my business, I was always crystal clear about the why behind my actions. I had a clear understanding of my purpose for that particular goal and was driven to achieve it.
A group of friends and I were having a discussion about happiness. Various people took turns chiming in on the topic. The conversation included a number of different comments. One person shared that they were rediscovering what made them happy, another about the fact that they seemed to focus more on what made them unhappy, and yet another listed specific things that made them happy.
So what’s all this talk I hear about Emotional Intelligence? Emotional Intelligence can be defined as a person’s ability to effectively negotiate social relationships and environments. Emotional Intelligence is a relatively new science and is becoming an important factor in determining a persons success in business and in life.
Growth … spiritual growth, personal growth, professional growth, relational growth, emotional growth, and on and on it goes! For those folks who focus on continuous growth and development … I have a question for you. Are you happy? Are you content with where you are at this exact moment in time? Or …
I always believed that growth as a person, a leader, or a professional, meant that I needed to be learning something new. It meant that I was pushing, stretching or moving out of my comfort zone in order to expand my knowledge, my thoughts, or my skills so that I could be better. But growth is not always about pushing or pulling at all.
There have been hundreds of thousands of books written on the topic of personal growth. If you search “personal growth books” at Amazon.com you will get 74,039 titles. And while personal growth can be a very personal topic, it certainly doesn’t mean that personal growth is all about YOU! In fact, research shows that having a personal growth breakthrough typically comes when you surrender and let go of your ego.
How many times have you said to yourself: I can’t believe this? Was it after seeing something that didn’t make sense or experiencing something that made you incredibly angry? One of the models I use with clients is Beliefs (what we think) drives Behaviors (what we do) and those actions create the Results (what we get) in our lives.