The movie: True Grit (the original starring John Wayne). The scene: John Wayne, on his horse in a meadow, 50 yards across from Lucky Ned Pepper and his gang. It’s the climactic scene that the entire movie is built on … The epitome of true grit. The lines: John Wayne: (paraphrased) “Ned, I’m gonna kill you or see you hanged”
There have been hundreds of thousands of books written on the topic of personal growth. If you search “personal growth books” at Amazon.com you will get 74,039 titles. And while personal growth can be a very personal topic, it certainly doesn’t mean that personal growth is all about YOU! In fact, research shows that having a personal growth breakthrough typically comes when you surrender and let go of your ego.
“But I think it’s about Forgiveness.” Don Henley. Forgive and Forget? While that sounds simple it isn’t always easy! Sometimes atrocities happen in life caused by the actions of another person. Those are extremely difficult situations to forgive … and yet it has been proven that forgiveness in those horrendous situations actually sets the victim free, not the offender.
When we say that someone is frugal … what do we mean? Are we implying they are cheap, a tight wad, a penny-pincher … or are we implying that they spend money wisely? You can interpret frugality in a number of ways. For example, a single Mom raising 3 kids on her own because her loser ex-husband has an entitlement attitude and refuses to get a job that supports his kids NEEDS to be frugal.
Do you make the choice to empower yourself? There is a saying, count it all joy, which is an interesting thought, especially if you feel like your sitting in a situation that feels like anything BUT joy. Most of us have been trained to look at what is wrong as opposed to what is right about a given situation. And a lot of this what’s wrong thinking comes from the way we were programmed along with our life experiences. Here’s what I know …
Recently, a friend of mind and I were discussing the topic of commitment. I was sharing a situation where I felt that I needed to be ‘all in’ or not. Fence-sitting for too long can be uncomfortable. Let me add here, that at times, I have been known to analyze, scrutinize, and over-think, a situation to death … and this was one of those times!
The other day I was conversing with a colleague and fellow coach by the name of Barry Zweibel. We’ve been friends and have had a Mastermind of sorts since the day we met about 12 years ago. We were talking about life in general when Barry, as only Barry can do, pulled out a 2 x 4 and walloped me upside the head with a question that challenged what I believed about my purpose in life. He was challenging me to embrace my purpose at a much higher level.
At any given time in life we are all faced with problems and challenges. It’s a fact … you can’t navigate through life and avoid having problems. Problems will come no matter how hard you wish them away. What you believe about problems and the actions you take as a result of your beliefs will determine your level of happiness as well as your ability to work through them towards a solution.
Webster defines op•por•tu•ni•ty as: 1. an appropriate or favorable time or occasion and 2. a situation or condition favorable for attainment of a goal. So what might be stopping you from taking advantage of a favorable time or occasion? Maybe you’ve heard this before … I would … if it were only the right time.
You’ve heard them … On television, in the news, at your office, your church, even your kid’s volleyball game! People complaining and blaming others for their short falls and failures. It surprises me that they actually believe their failures have nothing to do with themselves. They believe the fault lies with some – thing or some – one else. I believe the reason many people do not succeed at the level they desire is because they have blocked their path to success with self-imposed obstacles.