It takes courage to change the “things” in our lives that are not working. It takes even more courage to change ourselves. Why? Because in order to change ourselves we have to admit that “something” about us is not working … and that, in-and-of-itself requires courage. As human beings we have a propensity to look outside of ourselves and focus on trying to change those around us. We prefer believe that other people are the cause of our pain, aggravation, or undesirable results.