“What others say and do is a projection of their own reality” ~ Miguel Angel Ruiz Projection is a defense mechanism where we take a part of us that we don’t like (i.e. our arrogant-self, selfish-self, or our untrusting-self, etc.) and project it onto someone else. For example, if we look at someone and…
“A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi Have you ever taken a moment to reflect on a problem you were having and thought…I wonder if I might be the cause of the issue? The truth: Most people don’t! In fact, the majority of folks…
“Truth can be found in simplicity.” ~ Joe Contrera Sometimes we find ourselves in a situation that seems so overwhelming that we lose our way and end up drowning in a sea of fear, doubt, and confusion. In times like these, it might be helpful to simplify your thought process and boil it all…
“It’s not denial. I’m just selective about the reality I accept.” ~ Bill Watterson Are you turning a blind eye to an issue in your business? What a leader chooses to see or more importantly, what not to see, can have a devastating impact on their business. Being aware of an issue and not taking…
“Creating choices empowers me…giving choices empowers others” ~ Joe Contrera A friend of mine once asked me a question when I was going through a pretty tough time in my life. They asked, “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?” Believe it or not, my initial response was, “I…
Quiet Quitting… An Oxymoron? The term quiet quitting has been being bantered around a lot lately. Apparently, it is a derivative of the Great Resignation, and is defined as an employee who puts no more effort into their job than absolutely necessary, basically it is about doing the bare minimum. As an executive coach, I…
“The time is always right to do what is right.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr. Oh Wells – Why Do You Fargo Your Ethics? Being an ethical leader in todays world can be extremely challenging. My latest book, Extraordinary Results for Life is based on the premise that you cannot be a crappy person and be…
“Your life is the fruit of your own doing. You have no one to blame but yourself.” ~ Joseph Campbell The Blame Game Is it me, or have you noticed the astronomical rise in situations where folks are blaming anyone and anything for their problems? Have you noticed that practically every other news media story,…
Who’s On Your Team? As I reflect over the first two months of this year, I was struck by the number of leaders and teams I had the privilege of working with. I have the privilege of walking alongside these folks and help them push past their comfort zones to do the hard work of…
Perfection, Projection, & Integrity Many of us we’re taught to pursue perfection. We were imprinted with the belief that perfection was achievable. We just had to try hard enough, work long enough, or be good enough. Please don’t get me wrong here, I am not saying we should not always strive to do or to…